People grow emotionally and spiritually when they come closer to their own mortality. Never underestimate a person’s capacity for spiritual growth when faced with the inevitable. People experience a variety of emotions such as denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial, sometimes even more denial, and eventually, acceptance. Every one of us will come face-to-face with our own mortality sooner or later, and every one of us must make peace with the inevitable.

As an insurance agent, I often find myself in conversations about mortality, death and the inevitability of it all. One of the most common themes in these conversations is regret. Regret seems to be a common emotion felt by people about their lives and what could’ve been. Some of the most common regrets that people have expressed to me when faced with the prospect of dying include the following:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage and strength to be true to myself, and not the expectations of others.
  2. I wish I’d spent more time with my family and loved ones.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to let other know how I really felt.
  4. I wish I’d kept my friends closer.
  5. I wish I’d allowed myself to express more happiness with the moments in my life.

Don’t let the I wish I’d’s rule your life. Don’t live a life of regrets, live YOUR life.